Posts Tagged ‘emotions’

Truth and emotions

Thursday, January 13th, 2011

Parasite, originally uploaded by bijoyKetan.

“Never apologize for showing feeling. When you do so, you apologize for truth.”
– Benjamin Disraeli

I read that quote and its meaning has been resonating within since. I am always apologizing for ‘getting upset’, for crying, for being mad, for being afraid, for everything really. I can think of a dozen or so times in the past month I apologized for showing emotion. Tsk. Tsk. Tsk.

We have alienated ourselves in the age of social networking. Instead of closer, we are farther apart. It is sad but true. Part of this culture is to anesthetize ourselves, our emotions. Mute them down, paint over them, pretend as if we are aloof. Grow so busy we can’t help but be apathetic to that which matters: people, love, connections, family, relationships.

I am going to try not to apologize for my emotions, my feelings, for 30 days. If you catch me do it, remind me! =)

How do you feel today?

Monday, November 29th, 2010

how do you feel today? #explore, originally uploaded by Thiago SL.

Moods come and go and mix and match every minute, every hour, every day, every week, every month and year… and I can appreciate each and every one of them. Life is not cut and dry, it is not concrete. Nothing is constant except change.

We often forget or refuse to acknowledge and respect the feelings we are having. We push them aside, we swallow them, we hide them, we pretend they do not exist. But what if we were to set aside 5 or 10 minutes a day to acknowledge our feelings, feelings we had throughout the day that we could not, or would not allow ourselves to feel. What if we carried around a little notebook and wrote them down and looked at them at some point for 5 to 10 minutes a day? In writing, aloud, in our own minds.

Right now, I feel grateful. I feel reticent. A little sad. More grateful. And I am thankful for every feeling, juxtaposed, awkward, uncomfortable or jubilant. I am thankful I have a very wide, extremely complex range of emotions to cope with life. =)

So, how do you feel today?


Sunday, May 30th, 2010

Passion burns down every branch of exhaustion;
Passion’s the Supreme Elixir and renews all things;
No one can grow exhausted when passion is born!
Don’t sigh heavily, your brow bleak with boredom;
Look for passion, passion, passion, passion!

– Jalal-ud-Din Rumi

Passion is important in life. In relationships with others and yourself, passion keeps things moving, keeps things interesting and oft times is the catalyst for positive change. How can we revive passion when it feels like an act of futility? I am not referring to romantic passion, I am referring to having a passion about the choices, the ideas, the activities, the people in our lives. I am talking about enjoying our lives for whatever they are, wherever we are, whatever we are doing.

How can we remind ourselves that life is finite and every minute is worth enjoying, savoring? I know it sounds hokey but really, what are you doing right now (besides reading this post)? It is not what you do as much as why you do it… and how you do it. If it is watching TV or reading this post, are you enjoying yourself? Is this what you want to be doing? Are you actively engaged in the present moment no matter what it is you choose to be doing?

For example, we all must work to pay the bills or most of us anyways, right? Well, most people do not ‘love’ their work but they do it anyways. Why shouldn’t we love what we do? Why shouldn’t we be in the moment, present, active and enjoying what we are doing? We have all seen trashmen who are singing whilst doing some of the dirtiest work. We have also seen movie stars or famous singers wallowing in their misery, loathing every minute of the job that was once a favorite hobby. It is all in perception, really. It is not about being inspired to be passionate by some one or some thing else. It is not about finding everything rosy and wonderful. It is about being present and bringing passion to everything you do. It is about being the change you want to see in the world.

Does this mean everything is wonderful and you should pretend as such? No! Passion does not claim any one emotion, it does not disqualify or negate any either. If you are hurting, allow yourself to do so. Do not deny yourself the right to feel whatever you are feeling. Do not be harsh on yourself for your feelings. Respect them! Passionately love yourself! Give yourself the right to feel or experience whatever is real. This is what I need to practice.

Today, I will try to be passionate about whatever I choose to do. I will try to be forgiving with myself. I will try to respect my emotions and others without losing myself.

I would love feedback on this topic. How do you think we can reintroduce passion back into our day to day lives?