Posts Tagged ‘be thoughtful’

Journey to the depths of niceness

Saturday, July 24th, 2010

I happened upon a most wonderful site the other day, Operation NICE. Allow the lovely lady who started it tell you in her own words (from the website) what it is about,

Don’t you love it when people go out of their way to be nice? Like when someone waits to hold the door for you. Or when a stranger waves you into a line a traffic. Or even when a coworker shoots you a friendly smile along with a “have a nice day.” If everyone was a little bit nicer to the folks they encountered each day, perhaps the world would be a more pleasant place. Operation NICE was initiated to remind you that a little NICE goes a long way.

And so a movement was born…a journey to be nice and proactively spread the niceness. I am jumping in head first! I am already a fairly nice person. I compliment good service. I write thank you notes. I try to be thoughtful mostly. However, I am ready to begin a journey into new depths of niceness.

Most every week for the past few years the nice lady who runs Operation Nice has given out nice assignments for others to complete. Having just found the site I feel a little jealous I have missed out on all these nice opportunities to be super-duper nice and make another person’s day a little bit better. And so! I have decided I will do some of the past assignments as well as trying to do the new ones that she conjures up! It will be fun, fun indeed. These are the past nice assignments I have decided upon:

  • Mail a card to a random stranger (picked from the telephone book). I will do this once a month, every 3rd Thursday a month, I already sent the first one yesterday to a lady in Illinois! The whitepages.com insists you put in a last name so I chose a random word close to my heart, ‘book’. =) Fun!  (Ongoing)
  • Hand make valentines and give them to those you care about. I had a head start on this one as I did this for Valentine’s Day. But why stop on that day? I will handmake one valentine every month to send to someone I care about–on the 2nd Tuesday of every month. (Ongoing)
  • I love list for each month, write a list or do a doodle composition of what you love about the current month… or as I will do it the upcoming month. I will post my What I love about this month picture or list on the 1st of every month. (Ongoing)
  • Write a living eulogy — I will give this some thought and get back to you soon… I might even post it. If not, I will post about it. (Finished on August 6th)
  • Send a postcard to family and/or friends on a regular basis. I will choose some nifty postcards and send one a week to a different person until I recycle through everyone and then begin again. (Ongoing)
  • Make a I Love list, a positive way of articulating goals or just being grateful. I will make one soon… and periodically make new ones… this one will be fun! (Finished on July 30th)
  • Nice bombs, on the Operation Nice website she provides cards you can print out that say Nice Note and a space for you to write in your own message. She even attaches little gifts with them! How nice!!! I will write some out and sometimes add little gifts… and leave them places, taking photos of the places I leave them to share with everyone. (Ongoing)

Oh! I am excited to get all crazy random nice! How fun! I will keep you up to date on my journey to the inner depths of niceness. In the meantime why not start your own little nice things to do and tell me about it and tell Melissa from Operation Nice about it too! And a big fat thank you to you Melissa for inspiring me to be even nicer.

Updated last (August 25th).

Be Thoughtful (part 4)

Tuesday, June 1st, 2010

And yet another wonderful response to the Be Thoughtful list… here is part 4 (from the Madhattress)…

  1. Read a book to a friend (little or your age)
  2. buy flowers for someone
  3. note good behaviors
  4. leave notes of encouragement in random places
  5. be there to listen
  6. vocalize friends strengths
  7. hug a friend even if you don’t like hugs
  8. go to the movies in the middle of a random day with a friend
  9. paint someone a picture
  10. register to vote with someone
  11. sing out loud
  12. play games
  13. get active in something you care about
  14. eat healthier with a friend/family member
  15. be there to listen to venting
  16. let emotions happen (your own or others)
  17. dance around together
  18. clean up our planet with a friend
  19. smile at a stranger (not all strangers thought)
  20. plant a garden
  21. take an unplanned driving trip
  22. write someone a card (for no special reason)
  23. give change to those who ask
  24. be active in the progression of your friends lives
  25. laugh. laugh. laugh.

Wonderful! Thanks again!

You can read part 1 here, part 2 here and part 3 here.

Be Thoughtful (part 3)

Sunday, May 30th, 2010

And another response to the Be Thoughtful list request… this one is from my young nephew…

1. Open the door for people
2. Help people with groceries
3. Help a kid get through a bad day
4. Stick up for a kid in trouble
5. Help a kid get his ball out of a tree
6. If people have their hands full carry something for them
7. If someone loses something help them find it
8. Pick up trash
9. Recycle
10. If a kid is lost help him get home
11. Get something that is high up in a tree
12. Help a kid if he is hurt
13. Call 911 if a kid is seriously hurt
14. Bring the recycle down to the car
15. Make a kid’s day better
16. Make more activities for kids to do
17. Let every kid play with you
18. Help the disabled
19. Let people in line behind you go before if they are in a hurry
20. If you’re in line and someone has more stuff, let them go because its nice
21. Lift a kid up to reach something
22. Help a kid even if he says he is fine
23. Talk with a kid that has had a bad thing happen to him
24. Help solve a fight
25. Give a kid a dollar just because it would brighten his day

Part 1 can be read here.

Part 2 can be read here.

Part 4 can be read here.

Be Thoughtful (part 2)

Saturday, May 29th, 2010

This is a response to my original post of 100 random acts of kindness…encouraging everyone to be thoughtful. Read the original post here

This is Persnickety’s list… yes, there may be overlapping ideas but that is ok … please, send us more!

Pack someone lunch, or a snack, to take with them.
Slip a note in someone’s lunch telling them 5 reasons you like them.
Tell someone you appreciate them, just because they are who they are.
When someone asks for spare change, give it to them.
Give more than your spare change when you are able.
Bake cookies for someone.
Bring homemade treats to work.
Buy a $5 gift card to give the person in line behind you, or more if you can.
Buy coffee for the person in line behind you.
Bring home fresh flowers, and some for a neighbor or friend.
Leave sticky notes around for your loved ones, tell them you love them, appreciate them, and enjoy their company.
Take groceries to someone’s house to make them dinner.
DO the dishes after having dinner at a friends house.
Take a care basket to a sick friend, soup, herbal tea, cough drops and Kleenex.
Leave change in the candy/vending machine at the store, for the next child that comes along.
Write a letter to someone you know and mail it to them.
Give away coupons you are not using to people in the store.
Bring a child balloons, just for fun.
Donate your magazines and books to a retirement home or nursing facility.
Bring someone something you know they like, just because you thought of them today – a favorite drink, dessert, flowers.
Hug your family when you come in the door.
Let people do nice things for you too, and just say “thank you”.
Do someone else’s chores for them.
Wake up a little early, and make breakfast for your family, even if you have to pack it for them to eat on the go.
Smile at people, acknowledge them.
Pay someone’s bus fare.
When you have a positive customer service experience, be sure to tell their boss. If you are in a hurry, take their name and call later.
In the parking lot, offer to take someone’s cart back for them.
Offer to help someone load or unload their groceries.
Say hello to your neighbor.
Read to someone, a child, a friend.
When you think of an old friend, call them to say hello.
Send someone a “thinking of you” card.
Send thank you notes.
Volunteer – even an hour or two a month.
Ask someone you know to go for a walk.
Play a game with your family.
Bring home sparkling cider to celebrate your family.
Mail coupons to someone for something you know they buy, or somewhere you know they shop.
Ask a friend or coworker to lunch.
Make time to help people when they ask.
Ask someone about their day, strike up a conversation, and listen.
Remember the last nice thing someone did for you – now do that for someone else.
Offer to do someone’s grocery shopping for them.
Offer to run an errand for someone, to give them some freed up time.
Mail postcards when you go on vacation.
Mail postcards from your hometown to people far away.
Give someone a neck and shoulder massage.
Take popsicles to your childs class on a hot day.
Tip really well, and write “THANK YOU” on the receipt.

Read part 1 here (the original post). Read part 3 here (the 2nd response). Read part 4 here (the 3rd response).

One step removed…

Wednesday, May 13th, 2009

“We cannot rise higher than our thought of ourselves.” — Orison Swett Marden

We are all just one step removed from that which we hate, that which we have no control over, that which we are afraid. It behooves us to pay attention to the way we treat people. Are we so willing to discard people because we feel we are discardable? Do we ignore the starving because we are afraid we might starve one day lest we avoid the poor? Do we believe they deserve such fate? Who amongst us would starve by choice? What drives us to ignore those in need? What drives us to abandon those we love? Are we so accustomed to a disposable lifestyle that we believe even people are so easily replaced?

I believe we are all just one step removed from poverty…from being a scoundrel…from being a hero…from being left behind…from leaving another behind. It is not just our actions–our good or bad deeds–that separates us but our thoughts and happenstance. It is our social constructs. It is so many things and we are capable of great good and great bad.

Which will you choose today? And tomorrow? Who can tell?

Think twice before you make hasty decisions. Think twice before you walk past a person starving, begging for your spare change. Think twice before watching a family go hungry. Think twice before firing 2,000 employees in lieu of trimming the salary of the top executives. Think twice before cheating on your lover–be honest with them, it may do you both good.

I once saw a group of people giving out hugs in the middle of a busy city street. They held up signs and offered to give random strangers hugs. I wish to do just this so often. How many of us really need a hug but don’t say it, or don’t even know it? We are all one step removed from loneliness, from isolation, from sadness, from happiness… from good…from bad… from everything.