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Are you my mother?

Friday, March 27th, 2009

It seems we all need mothering long after we have grown up. This may or may not be a reflection on how good or bad our biological mother was at being a parent. It may just be a lesson unlearned or an idea never shared, a moment lost in the busy of her day. It may have been the lesson you learned when she was too tired, at work, on the phone or simply having a bad day. Whatever the case may be—we all need mothering from time to time. Some of us more than others.

I am fortunate to have the most wonderful friends. We mother each other all the time. On Mother’s Day we celebrate one another because we have learned so many of life’s lessons from our experiences together. We have dried each other’s tears. We have calmed each other. We have pushed each other to be the better version of ourselves. And we are fortunate to have each other.

The 22nd of March was “Mothering Day” in the UK. It is the equivalent to the U.S. holiday “Mother’s Day”. It is a day where children celebrate their mothers.

Originally, “Mothering Day” was a day in the middle of Lent where the fasting rules were relaxed in honor of the “Feeding of Five Thousand” story in the bible. This day was referred to as Mothering Sunday. The word ‘mothering’ refers to a practice of visiting one’s mother church. About 400 years ago people used to visit the biggest church near them, the Mother Church, this was often referred to as “going mothering”. During Lent, young servants were only allowed to visit their families once a year, typically on Mothering Sunday. Often these servants were allowed to take home a cake or flowers or gardens for their mother on this yearly visit and thus became a day of treating one’s mother well.

My friend discovered this holiday and thought of me. I am always mimicking the baby bird in the P.D. Eastman children’s book, Are You My Mother? So, she decided to give me a “Mothering Day” present…

Her note to me on the last page...

Her note to me on the last page...