After finding the website, I Wrote This For You dot me, I immediately bought the book, of course — titled after the website: I Wrote This For You by Pleasefindthis. And in it, I found some of the most beautiful, raw snippets of thought prose. One of the passages that stands out to me right now is titled, “The Static On The Line”. It says,
Don’t talk to me like you know me. Talk to me like you love me.
Incredible, eh? So, why not? Why don’t we talk to people like we love them, like we adore them? Why are we often harshest to those we are closest with? He writes about this on his blog too, in a post titled “The Closeness of Shadows” where he says,
You still believe you’re allowed to hurt the people who love you more than anyone else.
Why is that? =/ That is so sad. Let’s stop, shall we?
I owe an apology to someone I care a lot about. I am often so inside my own head I do not realize how my retreat within, my withdrawal from the everyday affects others. I recently avoided someone when they needed me, not because they needed me and not really on purpose but more because I was in my own head and trying to avoid the world. No matter my reason, I hurt someone. So, what better time than NOW to send a postcard with a simple apology and words expressing how important this person is to me? That is what I did this morning. Good Morning.
For the record, I am sorry. And love is fade resistant, no matter how far I go, no matter how long I am silent.
I happened upon a most wonderful site the other day, Operation NICE. Allow the lovely lady who started it tell you in her own words (from the website) what it is about,
Don’t you love it when people go out of their way to be nice? Like when someone waits to hold the door for you. Or when a stranger waves you into a line a traffic. Or even when a coworker shoots you a friendly smile along with a “have a nice day.” If everyone was a little bit nicer to the folks they encountered each day, perhaps the world would be a more pleasant place. Operation NICE was initiated to remind you that a little NICE goes a long way.
And so a movement was born…a journey to be nice and proactively spread the niceness. I am jumping in head first! I am already a fairly nice person. I compliment good service. I write thank you notes. I try to be thoughtful mostly. However, I am ready to begin a journey into new depths of niceness.
Most every week for the past few years the nice lady who runs Operation Nicehas given out nice assignments for others to complete. Having just found the site I feel a little jealous I have missed out on all these nice opportunities to be super-duper nice and make another person’s day a little bit better. And so! I have decided I will do some of the past assignments as well as trying to do the new ones that she conjures up! It will be fun, fun indeed. These are the past nice assignments I have decided upon:
Mail a card to a random stranger (picked from the telephone book). I will do this once a month, every 3rd Thursday a month, I already sent the first one yesterday to a lady in Illinois! The whitepages.com insists you put in a last name so I chose a random word close to my heart, ‘book’. =) Fun! (Ongoing)
Hand make valentines and give them to those you care about. I had a head start on this one as I did this for Valentine’s Day. But why stop on that day? I will handmake one valentine every month to send to someone I care about–on the 2nd Tuesday of every month. (Ongoing)
I love list for each month, write a list or do a doodle composition of what you love about the current month… or as I will do it the upcoming month. I will post my What I love about this month picture or list on the 1st of every month. (Ongoing)
Send a postcard to family and/or friends on a regular basis. I will choose some nifty postcards and send one a week to a different person until I recycle through everyone and then begin again. (Ongoing)
Make a I Love list, a positive way of articulating goals or just being grateful. I will make one soon… and periodically make new ones… this one will be fun!(Finished on July 30th)
Nice bombs, on the Operation Nice website she provides cards you can print out that say Nice Noteand a space for you to write in your own message. She even attaches little gifts with them! How nice!!! I will write some out and sometimes add little gifts… and leave them places, taking photos of the places I leave them to share with everyone. (Ongoing)
Oh! I am excited to get all crazy random nice! How fun! I will keep you up to date on my journey to the inner depths of niceness. In the meantime why not start your own little nice things to do and tell me about it and tell Melissa from Operation Niceabout it too! And a big fat thank you to you Melissa for inspiring me to be even nicer.
A hand drawn message drawn for me a long time ago, I keep it near my computer and I know I am always loved!
I think it is important to love without abandon, to say what you think but make sure you really think it first. Laugh often, even at yourself but be kind and forgiving with everyone including yourself. Write notes to those around you. Texts. Leave voicemails. Write a note by hand on a shred of paper or on 32 pages front and back… and mail it even if you live in the same house. Everyone loves to get mail that isn’t a bill. Give yourself a pep talk. Use affirmations that are fun. Be nice, go the extra mile. This world needs a little extra dose of love and friendliness.
“Injustice anywhere is a threat to justice everywhere.”
Martin Luther King Jr., Letter from Birmingham Jail, April 16, 1963
I was told there is a woman in Iran that is sentenced to be stoned to death. I did some research and the official statement from the Iranian government in response to these allegations is that it is not true that she will NOT be stoned to death1. However, I am also well aware that official statements are not always true and thus, I am moved to do something.
Being stoned to death means she will be buried up to her head and then people will throw rocks at her face and head…and continue to do so until it kills her. This is an extremely cruel and unfathomable means of torture and death. We must stop this OR any state-sanctioned death from happening. It is not a question of whether she is guilty of a crime or not…but for the record, she is not…it is not a matter of cultural sensitivity or cultural imperialism or relativity, it is a matter of human injustice, cruelty…it is a matter of fundamental human rights. We all have a right to live and be free from gender domination or state-sanctioned governmental death.
We must help stop this death (and all unnecessary deaths) immediately as humans. Please, please, please help save this woman from this horrific torturous death OR ANY DEATH. She is charged with adultery which is a gender bias crime, the premise being that women are property, property of their fathers then their husbands and thus have no fundamental rights. I disagree!
I digress, this is such a complicated case but before we get lost in all the minutiea, please…let’s prevent this senseless death in whatever way we can. I will come back to the breakdown of the issues within this case for afterthought but now more than my opinion or thoughts or yours on everything else, we must try to save this woman’s life.
This video will help explain the case:
This is what you can do to help save this woman, Sakineh’s, life:
It is time we Americans help be the change we voted for with Obama. He said he could not do it alone. It is time we help him. It is time we help ourselves and each other. Your time is precious. My time is precious. We can still give an hour or two a week. You can find local volunteering opportunities here. Or maybe it is time to really give our time and to get back something far greater than we can imagine by committing to a year or two of full time service in programs like AmeriCorpsor PeaceCorps. Long-term service commitments have financial compensation as well, not much but enough, particularly for students. (They even offer scholarships!) But mostly, it will offer you a new lifeview. It will change your life forever.
Or start researching what is needed in your community and figure out how you can help fill that need. Nothing is impossible with motivation and imagination.
I don’t know what your destiny will be, but one thing I know: the only ones among you who will be really happy are those who have sought and found how to serve.